“Good point”…or at least “nice boots”.

In our very divided world today I find it increasingly difficult to get people to admit when they have made a mistake – and especially when they’ve invested time and money and put their good name out there with the mistake. I think intellectually most people would say that in a hypothetical situation, when plenty of evidence was presented that their position was incorrect, that they would be more than willing to admit fault, but in PRACTICE… in EVERY DAY arguments and conflicts, that wisdom usually flies out the window and is often times accompanied by insults and foul language and hurt feelings.

I think it is still important to stand up for what you believe in, but when you realize that you are dealing with a person that is entrenched in their mistaken beliefs, I’ve learned that the best thing you can do is deescalate the situation by finding a way to praise at least part of their argument. And it doesn’t even have to be subject based, you can say “You know, when you called me a ‘big idiot’ just now, thank you for leaving my weight out of it.” Thank you for not calling me a ‘big fat idiot.'” Or when I pointed out how your favorite politician could be charged with numerous crimes, thank you for just calling me a “socialist” and not a “socialist pig.”

So, yes, I’m being facetious, but in a way I really think it’s the best policy with some arguments. If you try to out argue someone that you think is “crazy”, that just means that you are crazy in turn. And in fact, the best way to look at someone whose ethics are completely different from yours, is not that they are crazy, but rather that they are disadvantaged in seeing the truth. If God got mad at us every time we completely missed the point of some inspiration or beauty He sent our way, He probably would have wiped us out centuries ago, and replaced us with some new creation – maybe a world of talking dogs. So anyway, if you’re in an argument you can’t win, no matter how many facts you’re slinging, just find the most non-confrontational way out of it. Let them think they won the argument. It would be better for them to leave the fight in a good mood, than plotting revenge. And if you can’t find anything nice to say about their argument, just say, “Nice boots. I need to find some like that. Where did you get them(you freakin’ moron!)

P.S. Don’t say the “freakin’ moron” part.

Thank you for reading my 57th blog.

Mark Inglis

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